The Bible is the ultimate resource for overcoming any negative emotion, especially anger. Find encouragement in scripture as you explore and resolve your angry feelings and resentment.
About a week ago, I received an email from a reader. She saw my post on overcoming disappointment, and she asked if I could help her. She is suffering in an unbearably unjust situation, and she is angry and resentful at the person causing it.
I can't share her whole story, but the details are unimportant. Your anger and resentment are as real and honest and justified as hers are. They're understandable.
And she's looking for answers and instructions, just like you are.
I prayed about this woman and her family, and I prayed for you. I prayed that God would give me the words to help both of you.
My therapist says that anger is always masking a more vulnerable emotion. I think it's helpful to look at that more vulnerable emotion and to deal with that, but you can come back to that later. For now, let's just talk about the emotions you're feeling.
12 Bible Verses & 5 Steps to Overcoming Anger and Resentment
Concrete steps make sense to me. Give me a numbered list, and I'm a happy camper. So I created a numbered list for you.
Following the steps isn't as easy as 1-2-3. The steps are where the real work lies. I am praying that you are challenged by these steps, and that you find a way to get through them all.
- Control your temper. (Let's start right away with the hard stuff!)
When people mistreat us and there's nothing we can do about it, we get mad. It isn't fair. Parents see it in their young children who are constantly on the lookout to make sure everything is fair.
The gut reaction to get upset in the face of unfairness never really goes away. God's Word says that we are to control our tempers, even in the face of unfairness.
Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. -Proverbs 19:11
Earn respect. What if the respect of men isn't what you're after?
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. -James 1:19-20
The righteousness God desires. Ouch. We may be able to brush off the respect of men, but the righteousness of God doesn't go away so easily.
Do to others as you would like them to do to you. -Luke 6:31
When we overlook wrongs, we treat others the way we want to be treated. But what if the wrong is something really big? What if we can't just get over the strife?
We still have choices. If the wrong is something monumental - abuse, neglect, criminal - then DO SOMETHING. Don't just get angry, but take action. Take your indignation and enlist the help of someone who can stop it.
The reader who wrote to me has endured her situation for five months. Certainly, she has been slow to anger. But now, she is furious.
What next?
2. Don't let your feelings control you. God recognizes that sometimes, we do get angry. Often, we need to in order to remedy a situation or to spur us on to action.
Don't sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. -Psalm 4:4
He is saying to think about your situation, and see if it merits your fury.
Are you saying something like, "YES! It does! I have a right to be mad. Is that wrong?"
Being upset isn't a sin, but being controlled by your feelings is.
And don't sin by letting anger control you. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. -Ephesians 4:26-27
So you're there. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry. Find a way to work it out, pray through it, move past it before you give the devil an in-road to your psyche.
Need a pick-me-up? Go do something kind for someone. Volunteer your time. Do good, forgetting about the person who's made you angry for a while.
Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper - it only leads to harm. -Psalm 37:8
All scriptures are God-breathed, right? Every word is true. So what of this? Stop being angry?! How do you just stop?
3. You pray. Pray for yourself. Pray for the person who is making you have big feelings. Pray for the situation. Pray that your heart will be softened and you'll forgive.
People can't change people. Only God can change people.
Right now, YOU need to be changed, and the person who's hurt you needs to be changed. Give yourself permission to just focus on you for now. Ask the Holy Spirit of God to change you and get rid of your anger despite the rotten situation you're in.
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.
Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. -Colossians 3:8, 12-13
You are holy and beloved, my friend. You are, and you deserve better than what these feelings are doing to you.
4. Forgive. I said these steps weren't going to be easy. Pray that you can forgive the person who's hurt you. Pray it every day, every hour, every minute if you have to. (What if it's too hard? Here are more Bible verses to help you with forgiveness.)
Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. -Ephesians 4:31-32
It's the Golden Rule again. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Treat the person who's hurt you with the same tenderhearted kindness that you treat your kids with.
I heard once that holding unforgiveness in your heart is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Unforgiveness is toxic to your soul. It affects every part of your life, and it manifests in sickness, in tension, and in anger.
Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven. -Luke 6:37
We are required to forgive as the Father has forgiven us, to refrain from holding a grudge, to let go. It is not optional - and it does not come easily.
5. Love. Forgiveness is one thing, but loving is another thing entirely. Loving your enemy - the very person who's hurt you - is also required by scripture.
Not suggested, required.
The very thought makes me feel sick for you.
You don't want to act in a loving way towards the person who's hurt you. Not at all.
That's where prayer comes in again. Pray that you'll have compassion and kindness for that person. (And keep praying it until it happens.)
Love your enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked. -Luke 6:35
This passage goes on to say that even sinners are kind to those who love them, but it takes something special to be kind to an enemy.
You see, we don't get to have vengeance. It's not ours; it's God's alone. We are called to love God and love one another, the end.
Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God.
For the Scriptures say,
"I will take revenge;
I will pay them back,"
says the Lord.Instead, If your enemies are hungry, feed them.
If they are thirsty, give them something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap
burning coals of shame on their heads.Don't let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good. -Romans 12:17-21
You see, Jesus didn't just die for you, my righteous friend. He died for the person who's hurt you, too. He loves both of you the same. It doesn't seem fair (there's a parable about that), but it is so.
Jesus died for both of you because you're both sinners.
Different stories, different sins, same black marks.
For God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for us so that whether we are awake or asleep we might live with him. Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. -1 Thessalonians 5:9-11
Save these Bible verses on anger and resentment in a convenient black and white printable below. You can work on memorizing and meditating on them, one at a time.
If you need help with a system for memorizing verses, check out this post on our family's memorization habit.
Dan says
Psalm51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
I catch myself repeating this scripture over and over again when I'm slipping into anger.
I would also recommend a study by Chip Ingram title 'Overcoming Emotions that Destroy'.
Amongst a daily battle with anger spanning 4 decades the above has done much to crack the shell of anger and self loathing that I carry.
Sue says
Habakkuh 3:2 is one I didn't see listed I just read commentated in one of my commentaries of choice. Last part of it I try to repeat to self when topic of issue past or present comes up in mind or conversation "When in wrath, remember mercy" another wording to make practical, "when in anger, remember love"
Anonymous says
Hello Friends!! I just wanted to share my story, I can attest that the word of God in the bible is true, based one of these verses alone: I was in argument with my mom last night and went to sleep with these negative feelings and the next day I woke up EXTREMELY angry... The whole day I was SO Angry... Even when I had just woken up... and it didn't stop there until I got my feelings sorted out this evening...! Those feelings were the most extreme I have ever had that I realized something was wrong... I had never woken up SO ANGRY before and it lasted for a very long while- ALMOST the whole day. And I didn't understand until I read Ephesians 4:26-27 at this page...
So brothers and sisters, I would ask that you keep His words in your hearts and minds.... So that you may be worthy of the promises of Christ. What I experienced for myself is horrible, so please do not go to sleep Angry, have some time to reflect on your anger and find peace and calm in forgiveness even if the other party has not asked for it.
I wish you all well! I just thought I would share! Never Again.... Such a horrible experience!
Sarah says
Recently I had reached out to a lady in my church for some help dealing with anger. She assured me that my anger was valid but I could not stay in it. She told me to get alone with God and do some searching and listening. I began praying and asking God to show me where to start. I knew I didn't want to stay in my anger but I couldn't move past it. I had looked up many things online and prayed to no avail. I sat down this evening in a desperate, determination to find a solution. I knew God was dealing with me to put in some more work and tonight I was going to sit here until I found something... Your blog came up on a google search and I am forever grateful! It was exactly what I needed to read. You gave clear points with scripture that were perfect. You also validated the anger and hurt I've have been holding onto. Your words really made me feel understood and you don't even know me! 🙂 This is so simple, yet complex. Thank you very much for this post, even a couple years after it was written God is still using you and your words to reach those who are hurting and in search of healing. I am grateful for a God who hears and listens. He is faithful - Always.
Thankful for you!
Diane says
I was searching scripture this evening because I’ve been angry with a close friend for the last 5 months. We have shared many challenging circumstances with each other and I’ve always felt comfortable speaking freely in Godly truth in our coversations. My friend was contemplating divorce and ended up in a relationship outside of the marriage. I was opposed to this choice and said so and communication came to an abrupt halt. Things that we openly discussed stopped. My friend has since filed for divorce and is living alone. I have been a mentor for my friend for a period of time and I was deeply hurt by the rejection and my trust in our friendship has turned into anger because I no longer feel like I can speak from the heart. When we do talk, I am not being true to myself because I find I’m just going along with the conversation and then I get angry with myself which turns into anger toward my friend. I think it reminds me of my relationship with my own children who rejected and abandoned me when I told them something they didn’t want to hear. I know I have a lot of deep seeded wounds and it’s easier for me walk away then work through and heal. I question if it is my pride getting in the way because for so long my friend shared everything with me and now others have taken my place. It’s taken me a long time to trust God and sometimes I feel He’s the only one I can really trust. I’ve been hurt many times in relationships and I’ve hurt many as well and I’m not very quick to let go and let God. I am trusting Gods Word to be true and pray for a tender heart...one that forgives and loves. I really cannot do this on my own and I thank you for this inspirational message and encouraging scripture. Again God has shown me His faithfulness in leading me to exactly what I needed. God bless
Shona says
I am sooooo thankful for this encouragement. I am resentful towards someone. This lesson was God breathed and it blessed my soul. I am thankful because it taught me, “ how to apply.” Through the wisdomyou’ve applied from the word,it made me want to obey its precepts. I thank God for my answer and thank God for the revelation. Keep being a miracle in the lives of people.
Gloria says
I have been divorced for 4 years now. I was married to my ex close to 29 years. Instead of feeling I divorced him, I feel like someone I loved in my family died. I have struggled through my emotions since the divorce. I feel angry,cheated on and abandoned. I feel I gave him half of the years of my life. He openly has had several different dates. I know this because our 18 year old daughter has told me. Knowing that makes me even more angry. I have been heartbroken since the divorce. I know the logical thing to do now is to let go. Well for me it has been easier to say that than actually doing it. I feel I can't let go. I feel I still love him and I regret the day we decided to divorce. I have been praying to God and Jesus Christ that he realizes that he had a family and want what I want my family whole again. I am 53 years old and starting over at this point in my life seems impossible to me. I pray to God to heal my heart and help me to forgive my ex. I pray that some day I will not feel angry anymore. That this time of my life and how I feel will soon be left behind. I want my daughter to see me accomplished and happy again and not this sad confused person. I pray for my ex to see what is important in life. Not his running around with different women. Only God can judge us so I don't judge him and his behavior right now. I just hope my ex stops his running around and make ,us, his family whole again.
M says
What a blessing for your summary of scripture as it relates to Anger. After I read your review, I searched and found a wonderful review by Dr. Joyce Meyers : Dealing with Anger.....God's Way and then.....a wonderful video by Anger Management, God's Way - Summer on the Mount #3 Jonathan Pokluda | June 23, 2015. Its important for me to understand that I need to ask for forgiveness from those that I feel make me angry because it is highly likely that I own a part of the conflict. In addition, we can't change people, Only God can. This is my downfall when I keep expecting my husband and child to become respectful in my eyes its an impossibility. I pray that God guide us all in this path through Jesus' Sermon on the Mount and the peace brought forth through the Holy Spirit. Amen
Terri says
Thank you so much. I am struggling in a relationship and today found myself overcome with anger- I mean real ANGER- and resentment - and rage and I wanted to crawl out of my own skin. I am so angry and feel so powerless and I know that is not what God wants for me. So I turned to my Google and here you were. Within two minutes I was on my knees- beseeching God to help me- to help me let go of the anger and despair - to help me rise above the resentment - to let it all go. And within two seconds I felt God's love pouring out to me. This is a struggle that will continue until it finds some sort of resolution, but I know in my heart that God sent me to your site today because I'd gone over the edge in despair. Thank you for being His tool to bring me back. May God bless and keep you.
Gina Gagliastre says
Be still, and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10
We must keep remembering this and that He is in control.
Esther says
Thank you for this page. I am a born again Christian and I dearly love the Lord... Unfortunately, I not only get angry when irritated, I have outbursts and feel as though I will explode! The rage even terrifies me but in that moment I tend to not care...
I have a big sister who always makes me feel inadequate and stupid, even when she is outrightly wrong and disrespectful, she doesn't care and always let's me down... We are orphans so I am always seeking her out when I need someone to talk to... I don't know what to do because I love her, and I don't think she even cares, maybe we both have deep rooted anger though hers is not evident. Our mum used to be angry and say terrible things.... So I tend to lash out if I feel belittled or manhandled... I am asking God for wisdom, self control, and love... I know God changes people because he has changed many of my other issues.... Anger is not my portion and I am asking God to pull it out from the roots!!
Please pray with me because anger is debilitating and robs one of everything!! I ask God in the mighty name of Jesus to give me victory in this so I can be a blessing to others and serve him righteously... May God have mercy on me and us all... May we be who he made us to be, to bring him praise in everything we are and do... I am now committing to be vigilant when the signs come, I pray that the Holy Spirit of God will quicken my spirit to hold my tongue and pause when agrieved. May God go before us!
Clare says
Thank-you Edther, for that prayer. I am the same & feel.intense anger & rage sometimes. Thank-youfor your prayer. It can help, if someone angers you, to pray, right at that moment & say in your heart "I forgive you for belittling me, I forgive you for making me feel this rage & anger" or whatever it is that they are ddoing to you or making you feel. That takes the power of the emotion.away from you. I tjink it is Gods way of protecting US, when we forgive someone. It stops the petson from affecting us' .
Monica says
Wow this is Great! God knew I needed to see this. I am so angry, hurt and confused with my ex best friend. Someone who was like a sister to me. She said things to me that I would never think would come out of her mouth. Pure evil. I don't know how to stop being angry. I couldn't even take communion at Church today because I know the thoughts and feelings I have inside are not of God. I don't know what to do...
Kim says
Hi, I am going on 12 years of severe sociopathic and narcissistic abuse. I have lived through multiple affairs by my ex, All of which he flat out denied and twisted the blame on me. I have had every word I ever spoke used against me. I have been financially abused over and over. I have had my kids placed in the middle of this evil game. I have been slandered and lied about. I have dealt with corruption in the court system and dirty attorneys. I have had every word I ever spoke used against me. I have been financially abused over and over. I have had my kids placed in the middle of this evil game. I have been slandered and lied about. I have dealt with corruption in the court system and dirty attorneys. I have Literally been left with nothing financially and I have lost years of alimony and support due to lies. My emotional state is tested every day of my life because I continue to be controlled by my ex. I live in fear that if I bring him back to court to try and get what he owes, he will bring my kids back into the situation and make my life more of a living hell. Right now I live every day just trying to remain literally been left with nothing financially and I have lost years of alimony and support due to lies. My emotional state is tested every day of my life because I continue to be controlled by my ex. I live in fear that if I bring him back to court to try and get what he owes, he will bring my kids back into the situation and make my life more of a living hell. Right now I live every day, walking on eggshells and hoping I don’t make a wrong move. I am not the same person I was a decade ago. I have no finances and no lawyer left. My last Attorney lied to me and had me sign everything away yet now I am not the same person I was a decade ago. I have no finances and no lawyer left. My last Attorney lied to me and had me sign everything away yet says he never said anything I claimed he said. The lies and corruption have destroyed myself and my children and I have no way of digging myself out at this point. I have prayed for years for justice and things keep seeming to get worse. I don’t know what to do anymore other than to continue to pray
Carrie says
This was such a blessing to me! Thank you God bless
Amber says
Wow! This was wonderful! Just what I needed to hear. I was really battling with some strong feelings. I wasn't sure what it was. I googled definition of anger.
Anger- a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.
That was it.... I was feeling this way towards a person. It seemed I had peace till they came around. Then all it was is confusion. So I went to look up scriptures on it and came across this article. It was exactly what I needed. Then I read through the comments and found out I wasn't alone. It took days to get through the comments but they really helped. To see what happens when we seek God, pray and walk in forgiveness! I'm trying to really walk in love with this person. I struggle and have to bite my tongue but I know God hears my groanings. He knows my heart and knows I follow him whole heartly now. The only advice I give people is what I learn from your word and to work wholeheartedly and be honest in everything thing. You want people to be able to trust you. When you lie you cannot be trusted. Its hard to walk through this world being a Christian. This world teaches every thing opposite then what God teaches. We do this one day at a time and seek Jesus to listen for that still small voice.
For with God nothing shall be impossible.
Luke 1:37 KJV❤⚓☀️
Joy Rogers says
I had a friend for 10 years and she lied to me about everything. Her son lived with me for a year and she asked him to lie to me all the time as well. Finally when he was ready to leave our home and go visit his grandfather for the summer her and I had a falling out. You see she is in a relationship with an abuser and a drug addict. I have asked her to not have him around my child as well as other things, he doesn’t really matter to our friendship except that because I don’t agree with her relationship we are no longer friends. I shouldn’t care, she made her decision but it breaks my heart. She lies to everyone in her life, no exaggeration!! She is fraud if the health and welfare system, commiting hipa violations, and living to get work done on her car from a previous accident. She posts pics of her perfect life and people rave and I am cumsumed with anger and resent!! I want to tel everyone who and what she is and make her “face the music”. I haven’t and I won’t but I just want these feelings to go away. I don’t want to let her make me a “murderer” I just want to feel free from her and the anger! Please help!
Clare says
This may not be helpful but it seems that you are judging your friend in everything she does. You list all the bad things she is doing & it seems that you feel she should 'pay' for all these things. You judge her & seem full.of hate towards her. Pray that Jesus will take away your judging heart. It's not your place to jusge her. God willdo that. Pray for HER. Ask God to forgive you for your hardened heart & hatred of her. Ask Him to show you how He wants you to behave towards her. Jesus said 'loveyour enemies'. She seems like your enemy right now, not your friend. You can't 'love her' by yourself, as that is himanly impossible but you can do it if you ask Jesus to help you do it. Concentrate on thinking how you can influence her to get her away from this 'abuser, drug addict'. Maybe that's what Jesus wants you to do. Or maybe He wants you to reach out to the drug addict???
Dennis says
Always give everyone the right to be wrong. Our Heavenly Father does.
If we don't, we become a judge, & will be judged accordingly.
Clare says
Dennis, can you please elaborate on your first sentence there - I don't quite get it. Thanks.
Shonci says
I probably shouldn’t speak for Dennis, but his comment spoke deeply to me. I think he’s saying we shouldn’t expect perfection from anyone. Though we know that, it still bothers us when people behave imperfectly. People will mess up and people will be wrong. All people. Including me. Giving someone the right to be wrong helps me destroy my unfair expectations of them. It also frees me to truly love. God sees our imperfections and loves us anyway.
I’m glad I saw this today. I really needed to absorb the words of this blog and the words of Dennis. I can now stop focusing on my feelings of being wronged and channel that energy into something positive that will cause me to move forward.
Jeannie says
I needed to read this today. I am holding resentments against a person, that probably could not care less. I am blessed to have read this and have a fresh perspective on my situation.
samone says
I came upon this page because I am indeed angry and feel resentment to the person that I am with and I need spiritual guidance. October 16 was my birthday and last night things reached a head with me and my companion and he says that I am the reason another women was in the picture because I was bitter and couldn't see what I had done to get things to this point. He also says that my children are me and do the exact same things which causes an issue for his kids because they are trying to do the right thing. We are on a lease until Sept 2019 and its him and 4 kids (2 his and 2 mine). He is very into the Father and I am working to get even more acquainted with him because I had lost touch. I really need guidance because I am not able to go on alone with tackling this. I pray and pray and it seems like the more I pray the harder it becomes for me. I almost feel I am not worthy. Can someone please provide some insight for me, I try to follow the rules listed above but I keep stumbling every time I think I am making lead way .
Brittany Johnson says
I come upon this page bc I'm very anger and have so much hate inside of me for someone. I have prayed and continue to pray but I just cant get pass my anger. My ex husband decide he wanted a divorce and as this was going on I left the home with my children bc it had got to the point of being physical and would never want that around my children. This man took everything from me and my children are home, r car, he took things from my children and at the time I was a stay at home mom and cut all my cards off and I was trying to find a job.I will never say I was perfect but I did everything around the home even yard work and everything for my children. This man for some reason still feel I own him something and follows me. I'm just so tired of everything and ready to move pass this
Kim says
I was searching for scripture regarding being angry- God put this before me today. I am angry and hurt by someone I would give my own life for and it is so hard. Thank you for writing this blog and using scripture to make me understand.
Bryce says
Hi, great blog, I live the way you've written this!
I have one question- unrelated to the subject, but what translation is this? If you've typed it word for word, I'd love to find that translation for my studies!
Thanks in advance!
Be blessed
Tara Ziegmont says
Typically, I do copy and paste word for word from Bible.com, but I jump around between the NLT (my favorite), ESV (I've heard is the most accurate to the original language), and NIV.
Clare says
To Bryce,
You refer to Scripture & asked what version - I can't see any quoted Scripture in.all the comments above. What were you referring to?
Selena N Powers says
I need help . I feel like my grown kids treat me like I'm a monster. Who knows maybe I am. I took my son and his girlfriend into my home and now I'm moving and they both owe me money. I'm on section 8 housing and on disability. Because I ask for my money that I need to move which is owed to me, they both block me. I helped them out to get on their feet, but now they act like I'm trash.yes I need that money to move by December 1st and they both dont care if I lose my housing after I helped them so much. Now I'm not claiming to be perfect in all this and I have lost my temper. I asked them to forgive me but I'm blocked so they dont or cant read my apologies and my forgiveness. I wanted so bad to be mean and hateful on my end that's why asked for forgiveness.i sat and cried and prayed. I do forgive them and I do love them. I'm not a monster. Why is my own son hating me and his girlfriend after I've done so much to help them get on their feet. Now they dont care that I'm about to lose my place. It hurts bad I've done way more than my means for them, and now I'm blocked, I'm ignored, and yes I'm hurt, mad, sad.So I sat in my chair today in the middle of my anger I prayed with all my might I prayed for them I prayed for God to take my my hateful thoughts and I praised God in this hurricane of my life. I need help . I need prayers. I wish them both the best even if I become homeless. At least I could help them get on their feet. Praise God. Father I give you the honor glory and the praise for it all Even though I'm being treated as if I never existed but I trust you Lord and that gives comfort and the courage to let go of this anger. Thank you lord for my son and his girlfriend getting a home for themselves.
passing cloud says
because they are immature , ungrateful and they think they are upset that they can no longer take advantage of you. they are selfish and have no trust in god or forgiveness themselves
by the way, i am about to get a voucher for section 8 -- im on disability for 3 ruptured discs. but i cannot find anything available on the housing website
do you know what i can do to find a place with in 30 days ? i will lose the voucher if i dont find a place which makes no sense ----- if i dont find a place , then what ? i have to go back to renting rooms ?
the guy at housing seems prejudice and doesnt help me cause im not hispanic as he seems to favor them over me as he is hispanic
can you give some advice ?
Asibi says
It really helped me and i wouldn't mind if i get bible verses to read to help me the more. Thank you
Lisa says
Thank you Tara for your words of wisdom. I had googled "overcoming resentment" and was led to your site. I have a wonderful Christian husband and God has blessed us so. However, I feel such resentment and anger at times. My spouse hurt his back and retired ten years ago. His back healed and he was in kung fu classes everyday. He works about 20 days per year teaching. Since his retirement, I realized that retirement wasn't in the cards for me for a long while. I have been sick with Fibromyalgia for years and had been close to going on disability. God was there for me again and I found a wonderful treatment, so am not so sick, but, get flare ups frequently. I know God has led me to my job. But, I feel my spouse should step up to the plate. These thoughts run through my head over and over. I pray daily for love and forgiveness and the next day, I have to start all over again. I feel I have been taken advantage of and done wrong. But, on the other hand, God has led me to my job and in so many other ways. I can't seem to come to terms with the thought that maybe this is what God wants for my life. I was raised in a strict Baptist home and was told a husband would take care of me. It is surely the other way around here. I know God has blessed us because my spouse spends so much time in studying and prayer. On the other hand, I am so jealous that I don't have that time too! I feel like a lost child who wants to tantrum. I certainly could use prayers from anyone!
Patricia Mills says
HHI, I must say this site just helped me on October 9th, 2021 I as delivered form bitterness and anger!! God this teaching is so good!! I would say Lisa pray for God's submission to his will for your life. and not your husband to be the kind you want - as that can become a little bit of idolatry when you are adamant about what you want ! but if you pray for your will to become God's will it will be ok! Pray you ar ehealed totally!!
Janice Allison says
Hello yes you will be helped with prayer but also I would like to see you have a conversation with your husband about your feelings. Ask him to share with you a weekly Bible study and prayer time together. Also it seems the roles are reversed where you go out to work in that case your husband should have dinner on the table when you come home, in addition to ensuring the laundry is done or shared by you both as well as the housework. I totally believe in prayer and God’s Blessings but also taking steps to see how you can change your situation. My thoughts - Blessings to you and praying for you- Janice
Ashli says
Where is the link to download the bible verse for this post?
Tara Ziegmont says
I emailed them to you.