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8 Ways to Become a More Patient Mom

How to become a better and more patient mom with your kids - Great tips! Life with children is unpredictable, but these awesome suggestions help parents to be more fun and less angry. Parenting tips and ideas for mothers and families.

“I am very angry with you right now!” I snapped at 4-year-old Allie as she sat on the potty at Chik-Fil-A.

“Well, Mommeeeee,” she began, matter of fact as always. “I just can’t eat those chicken nuggets. I don’t like chicken nuggets. I don’t eat them ever.” (Which was, in fact, NOT TRUE since she asked for CHICKEN NUGGETS when we got home from our errands.)

“You only have to eat one nugget. Just one. Now get done on the potty so we can get back out to Gracie.”

“I have a little poop that needs to come out,” she replied. “I can’t hurry my poops.”

I sighed a loud, irritated sigh. I had spent 15 minutes cajoling Allie to eat one nugget when she realized it was an emergency that she get to the potty RIGHT NOW. We left 7-year-old Grace at the table, cleaning up the remnants of her lunch, when we ran to the restroom.

Allie, of course, neither peed nor pooped when we got her situated on the toilet.

There was a lady in the stall next to us, and if I had been in her shoes, I would have been silently judging the mom losing her patience with her child.

I was at the end of my rope. I had a big surprise planned for the kids (indoor trampoline park!), but I told Allie she had to eat one nugget before she could get to the surprise.

Grace was upset and afraid the surprise would disappear. Allie was clearly enjoying her sense of power over the whole deal.

It’s easy to be patient when your child is well-behaved. I am Mother Theresa at those times.

It’s the times when they’re intentionally helpless, dawdling, making a big mess, or throwing a tantrum when it’s hard for us to be patient – and when they need us most to be.

So how do I keep it together when I feel like throwing a fit myself?

How to Become a More Patient Mom

  1. Get enough sleep. I am at my worst when I am sleep deprived; I snap at everyone in sight. It’s nearly impossible to be patient and calm when your nerves are tired and frazzled. Getting 7-8 hours of sleep may seem like an unattainable luxury, but if you juggle your schedule around and are willing to let some things slide now and then, you can probably figure out a way to make it happen. Make it a priority.

    If you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. -Proverbs 3:24

  2. Pray. When you’re feeling like you might lose your patience, say a prayer. Ask God for strength and patience in dealing with your children with love and kindness.

    Pray without ceasing. -1 Thessalonians 5:17

  3. See things from their perspective. I have no idea why Allie wouldn’t eat her nuggets. I think perhaps she genuinely doesn’t like Chik-Fil-A nuggets (which is a real shame since I could live on Chik-Fil-A sauce myself). I think perhaps she was a little constipated, making her feel like she had to go to the bathroom even though she couldn’t go. I also think her little 4-year-old ego was enjoying a big dose of power over her mother and sister.
    The point is that there’s always another side to the story. Perhaps there’s a cool bug preventing her from walking to the car. Perhaps her coat is rubbing her chin, preventing her from getting it zipped up. Or her shoelaces are tied in a knot. (Notice how most of my examples involve getting out the door on time? Is anyone else chronically running behind?)

    And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. -2 Timothy 2:24-25a

  4. Keep your cool. Part of patience is keeping yourself from having a tantrum of your own. So you’re going to be late. So your child spilled her hot dog slices all over the floor. (That happened about an hour ago.) So she’s whining. Again. So they were wrestling and someone got hurt. Deal with the situation in the best way you can without yelling or stomping your feet.

    A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. -Proverbs 15:1

  5. Be kind. Treat your kids the way you want to be treated, with love and kindness and without snark and anger. Easier said than done, I know, but save the eye rolls, the whining (you know, Come on! and Stop it!), and the snapping (I said do it RIGHT NOW!).

    So in everything, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. -Matthew 7:12

  6. Enlist your kids. When you’re not feeling frazzled, talk to your kids about how you want to be more patient. Explain that you want to be a better mom, and ask them to tell you when you’re about to lost your patience. Accept their reminders with grace and take the opportunity to calm down.

    Let him know that whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins. -James 5:20

  7. Spend one on one time with every kid every dayThis time is so important in many ways, but it will really strengthen the bond you have with each of your kids. Kids who feel bonded to their mom are less likely to misbehave because they feel important and loved. Kids who don’t misbehave are less likely to provoke you to lose your temper.

    I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you. -Jeremiah 31:3

  8. Take a break. When all else fails, get away from the situation for a few minutes. Taking a 5 or 10 minute time out is bound to give you a new perspective on the whole thing.

    Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. -Matthew 11:28

How do you become a more patient mom?

© 2015 – 2018, Tara Ziegmont. All rights reserved.

9 thoughts on “8 Ways to Become a More Patient Mom”

  1. Awesome article! I have lost my cool with my kids so many times in 17 years. It’s not always easy. Reading this makes me giggle. I do watch my 3 year old niece quiet often, and we have some moments like this that make me crack up. For instance, she went to the dentist with me and was a good girl. She asked if we could go to the “nugget place and get a slushy” after. Sure I said… Translations, she wanted a burger with cheese on it and a frosty. She was real mad when I ordered nuggets! Oh so fun. We will be starting over with baby boy number 3 here in the next few months and I’m excited to put your steps into practice!

  2. What a wonderful article packed with great practical advice. #1 Get rest – so simple but so profound. How could you be patient if you are tired and agitated? Being a mother of a 2 year old and a 7 year old this is very timely for me. Thank you!

  3. Ah! story of my life.. is it weird that i have kinda stopped asking God to make me patient because i feel my patience gets tested each time i say that prayer..and i fail most times.. sigh..

    Will work on the tips you have shared… Thanks!

  4. Guilty. As a first time mom I just now realized how impatient I truly am. I am severely sleep deprived and by the time is time to lay one year old to sleep, I snap. Sigh. Now I realize I REALLY REALLY need sleep. Thank you for the steps and bible verses. 😀

  5. This is all such great advice. I’m an impatient person anyway; throwing intentional kid-ness at me sometimes makes it so much worse. 🙂 Especially since all mine are boys and sometimes I feel like I’m dealing with aliens. Lol Thanks for the tips!

  6. Just looked up “patience with kids” on Pinterest and this article was the first one I clicked on. I think it was an answer to my prayer. Thank you. I loved yourwise words and advice. I will be copying some of those scriptures to serve as a reminder. Thanks for sharing

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