I have had potty learning on my brain for about nine months, maybe longer.
Never willing to push her or make learning to use the potty a battle of wills, I have let Grace take the lead.
We got a potty for Grace’s first birthday. We put it in the living room, and Grace really liked sitting on it (fully clothed) to play and watch tv.
Eventually, we moved the potty to the bathroom, and Grace continued to enjoy sitting on it while fully clothed.
Now and then, Grace took her diaper and pants off and sat on her potty. A few times, she even got some pee to land in it.
Two days after that, she gave up on the potty. Forever.
Over the summer, I often asked, “Grace, would you like to sit on your potty?”
I allowed her hiney to air out often, usually more than once a day.
Sometimes, the diaper-less Grace peed on the floor. More than once, she said:
Momma! There’s a big poop on the floor!
But she never wanted to sit on the potty.
Once, I left her diaper off for most of the day. She peed down her own leg, and she found this experience to be very disturbing. From then on, if she thought she was about to pee or poop, she would climb up onto the couch, raise her legs toward the ceiling, and yell,
Put my diaper on! My diaper, Momma! MY WANT A DIAPER ON!
I gave up pretty quickly on my dreams of a potty trained 2-year-old.
That didn’t stop me from buying almost every potty training book in print. The Potty Book For Girls. Big Girls Use the Potty!. Once Upon a Potty for Girls. Everyone Poops. Sesame Beginnings: Potty Time!. Potty Time with Elmo. No More Diapers for Ducky!. And even Elmo’s Potty Time DVD.
It got to a point where I would bring an Amazon box in from outside, and Grace was clap and cheer.
I get new potty book!
It was then I realized that I’d gone a little overboard. If she hadn’t figured it out from three books, she probably wasn’t going to figure it out from seven books and a DVD.
Then, Grace started to show signs of being ready. She put her dolls on her potty, and she made sounds like they were peeing and pooping. All of her Little People (even the animals from the farm) took turns sitting on the potty in their house.
But still, Grace wouldn’t sit on hers.
And then I brought home a Dora Toilet Seat for the toilet, and I showed it to Grace. Around the same time, her grandparents bought her a three-pack of Dora panties.
Grace wanted to wear the panties. If that meant sitting on the toilet, she was willing.
I was ecstatic! She wore the panties all afternoon one Sunday.
3 pairs of panties, 3 pee spots on my living room carpet.
I was frustrated, and I was not ready for so much peeing on the floor. I thought learning to use the potty would mean that Grace would get it, and then we could stop buying diapers. I wasn’t prepared for so much frustration.
Grace was upset, but she gave in quickly when I said she had to wear a diaper if she wasn’t going to pee on the potty.
This past Saturday, Grace walked up to me and said, I no wear diapers any more.
Incredulous, I asked, “Oh no?”
Nope. No more diapers for Gracie. Diapers are yucky.
“Are you going to pee on the potty?”
Yes. My wear gutchies, and my pee on potty.
“Okay, if that’s what you want.” I replied.
It was, indeed, what she wanted. She sat on the potty every half hour all day Saturday and all day Sunday –
She never once peed or pooped on it.
A few times, she sat on the potty, pulled up her pants, washed her hands, and then peed on the floor.
Once, she didn’t pee from 8 am until 5 pm.
Another time, she held it all day and then peed on the floor after reaching in to the refrigerator.
I don’t get it.
I’m carting lots of dry training pants and lots of dry pants around where ever we go because Grace wants to wear them. She’s adament that she is not wearing a diaper anymore.
Each time Grace pees in her underwear, she gets upset, and she asks for them to be changed. We change her pants and her gutchies, and we start the process over again.
I don’t think Grace gets it, either.
I hope she gets it soon.
Has this happened to you?
What did you do? What did your little one do?
Do you have any advice for me?
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