Have you ever committed a parenting foul so egregious that, afterwards, you stepped back and thought, What was I thinking?
No, of course you haven’t. I haven’t, either. We’re moms, and we don’t screw up.
Other people, however, make glaring mistakes that we sometimes need to point out to them. One such blunder was committed while I was in Chicago for the Sara Lee Back to School Summit and BlogHer last week.
While I was away, Joe and Grace visited our extended family. Apparently, someone encouraged Gracie to say Gimme, gimme! instead of May have that, pease?
Encouraged? Maybe it wasn’t encouraged. Maybe someone just forgot his or her manners and told Grace Gimme, gimme!. Maybe it happened once or fifteen times. I don’t know, and Joe isn’t talking, except to say, I guess that wasn’t very smart, was it?.
Who said it and why is irrelevant. The result is the same. My formerly polite babe is now saying Gimme, gimme!, and I’m furious steaming mad very annoyed.
I’ve been ignoring Grace when she says Gimme, gimme!. I give Joe the hairy eyeball, wait a bit and then say, “Would you like this?”
She always says Yes! (probably thinking, I already told you that I want it, Mama!)
I model the right way for her, and she usually repeats it, May have that, pease?
She eventually gets what she wants, but not until she’s asked nicely. I’m hoping she puts it together and that Gimme, gimme! is gone soon.
On the positive side, she still says thank you and bless you, and the correction is not causing major tantrums.
I’m sure that she will learn worse in the hopefully distant future, but this is the first time this has happened. It’s also the first time I’ve ever been away, so the two aren’t sitting well with me.
What was the first annoying thing someone else taught your child?
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