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Goodies Are a Sometimes Food

Grace loves goodies. What child doesn't?

She has been eating goodies for more than a year, thanks in part to well-meaning relatives who have offered her M&Ms or Pepsi. Halloween stash. Christmas stocking. Easter basket. There are a lot of occasions on which we give and receive treats.

We all have a choice when it comes to our children and their intake of sweets and other junk food.

  1. None at all – Parents who choose this option restrict all junk food. Their children eat none at all.
    Recently, I spoke with a mother who claimed that her two-year-old had never tasted pop, chocolate, cookies, potato chips, and other junk food. She smugly informed me that her daughter's idea of a sweet treat was the five animal crackers she gets at bed time.
    I wonder what will happen when this little girl grows up and starts making her own food decisions.
  2. In moderation – Parents who choose this option allow their children to partake in dessert at family meals, and they may have a piece of candy or a cookie now and then.
    I think this is the smartest option. In allowing kids to sample goodies now and then, we're teaching them good eating habits. They learn from our example that goodies are a sometimes food. (Do you know where that sentence comes from? There may be a little something in it for the first person who writes it in the comments.) In learning moderation, kids learn that they sweets are something that we do indulge in, but not every day.
  3. Whenever they want – Parents who choose this option allow their children to eat whatever they want, whenever they want.
    I don't think I need to elaborate on why this option is undesirable.

Obviously, we are in the #2 group. We allow Grace to have sweets now and then. Last night, for instance, we drove to the local ice cream shop, and each of us had a cone. Grace loves ice cream, but she knows that we won't be going back for more today or tomorrow or the next day.

I think that's exactly how it should be.

Grace's Kitchen Friends

Please join in Grace's Kitchen Friends! To play along, all you have to do is fill out Mr. Linky below. (If Mr. Linky isn't there, leave your link in the comments.) You can link up any post that talks about kids and food:

  • feeding kids
  • cooking with kids
  • play with food or play kitchens
  • crafts with or about food
  • and probably a lot of other kids and food things I can't think of now.

I'm easy like that, Dear Reader. The only thing I ask is that you link back here to Grace's Kitchen Friends in your post. I can't wait to see what your kids are doing!

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16 thoughts on “Goodies Are a Sometimes Food

  1. We would be in the #2 group also and tried to allow things in moderation and try not to use food as a reward. I am an emotional eater myself though and it is a struggle to not pass that along to my son.

    Robyns Online World’s last blog post..CPR Anytime Giveaway!

    • Robyn – Yes! I struggle with using food as a reward, too. I understand why we shouldn’t, but I fall back to it more often than I’d like.

  2. Count us in for group #2 as well. We also, went to the ice cream shop the other night and each had a cone, but it is not something that Ryder will expect now every day. It’s a treat and I want to keep it new and exciting when he gets a sweet. Oh boy, now you’ve got me singing Hootsy the owl’s song to Cookie Monster, “A cookie is a somtime food, yes a cookie is a sometime food, ooh a cookie is a sometime food!” That one hasn’t crossed my mind in a long while, I guess I can teach my son a new song tonight! =)

  3. The #1 parent’s kids end up eating the most junk of all. #3 is my cousin and that kid has sugar highs and lows like I have never seen. I feel like my parents were between 2 and 3 🙂

  4. The #1 parent’s kids end up eating the most junk of all. #3 is my cousin and that kid has sugar highs and lows like I have never seen. I feel like my parents were between 2 and 3 🙂

  5. Also put me in the sometimes category, too – sometimes. 🙂

    I didn’t let either of my kids have juice until they were 1 or soda until they were 2. It’s only been recently that I’ve let them have soda with caffeine at all – they’re rambunctious enough without a sugar and caffeine buzz!

    As for the rest – candy, cookies, chips, etc. – I’ve always stressed that it’s occasionally and that they have to eat good food, too. The one habit I’ve fallen into that I don’t like is not letting them have dessert unless they try everything on their dinner plate. I fear they’re going to wind up as adults who scarf the cake and ignore the broccoli because Mean Mom deprived them. On the other hand, nothing irritates me more than “I’m full. Can I have cake?”

    Oh, and on a recent vacation, all bets largely were off. They had soda probably daily at meals, too much fast food and Granddaddy kept restocking the Chips Ahoy. I was afraid I’d have a problem when we got back home, but they seemed to get that vacation was over.

    9to5to9’s last blog post..This is anaphylaxis

  6. We would be in the #2 group also and tried to allow things in moderation and try not to use food as a reward. I am an emotional eater myself though and it is a struggle to not pass that along to my son.

    Robyns Online World’s last blog post..CPR Anytime Giveaway!

    • Robyn – Yes! I struggle with using food as a reward, too. I understand why we shouldn’t, but I fall back to it more often than I’d like.

  7. Count us in for group #2 as well. We also, went to the ice cream shop the other night and each had a cone, but it is not something that Ryder will expect now every day. It’s a treat and I want to keep it new and exciting when he gets a sweet. Oh boy, now you’ve got me singing Hootsy the owl’s song to Cookie Monster, “A cookie is a somtime food, yes a cookie is a sometime food, ooh a cookie is a sometime food!” That one hasn’t crossed my mind in a long while, I guess I can teach my son a new song tonight! =)

  8. Also put me in the sometimes category, too – sometimes. 🙂

    I didn’t let either of my kids have juice until they were 1 or soda until they were 2. It’s only been recently that I’ve let them have soda with caffeine at all – they’re rambunctious enough without a sugar and caffeine buzz!

    As for the rest – candy, cookies, chips, etc. – I’ve always stressed that it’s occasionally and that they have to eat good food, too. The one habit I’ve fallen into that I don’t like is not letting them have dessert unless they try everything on their dinner plate. I fear they’re going to wind up as adults who scarf the cake and ignore the broccoli because Mean Mom deprived them. On the other hand, nothing irritates me more than “I’m full. Can I have cake?”

    Oh, and on a recent vacation, all bets largely were off. They had soda probably daily at meals, too much fast food and Granddaddy kept restocking the Chips Ahoy. I was afraid I’d have a problem when we got back home, but they seemed to get that vacation was over.

    9to5to9’s last blog post..This is anaphylaxis

  9. We’re in the “sometimes” group about just about everything.

    But then, I have not noticed misbehavior or sleeplessness increasing when my son has sugar or caffeine. Mom does not have a reaction to caffeine either, so that was never a big deal to me.

    Most of the “sugary sweets” he gets are in his watered-down juice (and yes, he has been known to sometimes he refuses water for it, in which case, most of the time, we just let it go. If its a particularly hot day and we’re concerned about his fluid intake, we’ll put a bit of juice on top to get him to drink more. But its more like 7/8 water and 1/8 juice in that case), fruits, and yogurt with jam.

    If we have desserts in the house because of guests, birthdays, etc, then he gets some of those as well.
    .-= My Boaz’s Ruth´s last blog ..Thank you, President George W. Bush =-.

  10. We’re in the “sometimes” group about just about everything.

    But then, I have not noticed misbehavior or sleeplessness increasing when my son has sugar or caffeine. Mom does not have a reaction to caffeine either, so that was never a big deal to me.

    Most of the “sugary sweets” he gets are in his watered-down juice (and yes, he has been known to sometimes he refuses water for it, in which case, most of the time, we just let it go. If its a particularly hot day and we’re concerned about his fluid intake, we’ll put a bit of juice on top to get him to drink more. But its more like 7/8 water and 1/8 juice in that case), fruits, and yogurt with jam.

    If we have desserts in the house because of guests, birthdays, etc, then he gets some of those as well.
    .-= My Boaz’s Ruth´s last blog ..Thank you, President George W. Bush =-.

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