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My secret

Are you sitting down, Dear Reader?

I've found the secret to having a happy life, Dear Reader, and I'm about to share it with you.

Really. Today is your lucky day.

The secret to having a happy life is being able to find joy in the ridiculous minutia of your day.

You can write that down if you want. I'll wait til you find a pen and a piece of paper.

Have you written it down now? Good. I'm going to tell you how I came to this profound realization last Friday evening, in the back of the dining room of a Chinese buffet restaurant.

We often go out to dinner on Friday nights. Joe doesn't feel like cooking; I don't feel like cooking. It's always nice to unwind and talk over dinner.

Joe suggested going to the local Chinese buffet restaurant to eat, and we invited my parents and my sister to come along. The whole meal was really familiar and comfortable, something we've done many times before.

I mean, it was familiar and comfortable, right up to the point when my child ate my bowl of sweet and sour chicken with her fingers and then smeared herself up with the sauce as if it were war paint and she was a native headed to battle. That part was new and unique.

She dipped her fingers in the sauce and rubbed them together, feeling the slipperiness. She sucked all of the sauce off her fingers, enjoying the sugary sweetness, and then she stuck them together with the gooey residue. She rubbed her nose and wiped her face and suddenly, red sauce was everywhere.

I didn't at first notice the sauce running down her belly onto her pants, but apparently it did that, too.

Sweet n sour sauce stains, Dear Reader. It stains clothes, and it stains skin.

I had a choice to make. I could get mad, throw a fit, and let the mess ruin my day, or I could laugh and enjoy my daughter's curiosity and experimentation. Either way, I had a big mess to clean her up.

I laughed. I laughed about the mess and my misfortune in having to clean it. I laughed because I hadn't noticed that Grace was eating my chicken until it was too late. I laughed because my parents and my sister and my husband thought it was cute.

I laughed. Grace laughed. Everyone at the table in the restaurant laughed. Some like lunatics.

You should try it, the laughing. (Don't try the smearing sauce part. That's a hassle to clean up. Trust me.)

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23 thoughts on “My secret

  1. Hi,
    That’s so cute.
    yeah, we should laugh a lot, life is short, we must enjoy it. Memories like this will forver be captured in our hearts.

    Happy weekend. Thanks for the drop. :]

  2. Hi,That’s so cute.yeah, we should laugh a lot, life is short, we must enjoy it. Memories like this will forver be captured in our hearts.Happy weekend. Thanks for the drop. :]

  3. Hi. We’re following each other on Twitter, so when I saw your tweet about the secret to happiness I had to click through. I agree happiness is in the small things. If you wait for the big ones, you don’t get to be happy very often. (and I personally love sweet and sour sauce, although maybe not as a fashion accessory.) I actually wrote about this topic on my blog a few months ago, but it came out in poetry form. http://www.acorndreaming.com/2008/08/14/happiness/
    Thanks for sharing and I look forward to reading more of your blog.

  4. Hi. We’re following each other on Twitter, so when I saw your tweet about the secret to happiness I had to click through. I agree happiness is in the small things. If you wait for the big ones, you don’t get to be happy very often. (and I personally love sweet and sour sauce, although maybe not as a fashion accessory.) I actually wrote about this topic on my blog a few months ago, but it came out in poetry form. http://www.acorndreaming.com/2008/08/14/happiness/Thanks for sharing and I look forward to reading more of your blog.

  5. Funny how a simple thing such as laughing makes life better huh? Thanks for the great read!

    •Betty• @http://thejoereview.com/

  6. Funny how a simple thing such as laughing makes life better huh? Thanks for the great read! •Betty• @http://thejoereview.com/

  7. Oh yes, finding joy in little things guarantees you happiness in life 🙂 I also look for the positive side of any given situation as much as possible.

  8. Oh yes, finding joy in little things guarantees you happiness in life 🙂 I also look for the positive side of any given situation as much as possible.

  9. Great advice! I can’t say that I have taken the time to find joy in the minutia of each day, but I certainly don’t get my panties tied in a knot over things! LOL!

  10. Great advice! I can’t say that I have taken the time to find joy in the minutia of each day, but I certainly don’t get my panties tied in a knot over things! LOL!

  11. I LOVE laughing. My family is always ready for a good laugh. That’s one of the things I love about holidays and get togethers is we always end up deliriously histerical by the end of the evening!

  12. I LOVE laughing. My family is always ready for a good laugh. That’s one of the things I love about holidays and get togethers is we always end up deliriously histerical by the end of the evening!

  13. You just might have taken the road less traveled, and that made all the difference. Laughter for sure will cure what ails you.

  14. You just might have taken the road less traveled, and that made all the difference. Laughter for sure will cure what ails you.

  15. Laughing really is the best medicine. I know my little man gets into a lot of messes and sometimes I have to remind myself to just laugh about it. I know that one day I will miss the things he is doing now. I treasure every moment with him, even the messy ones!

  16. Laughing really is the best medicine. I know my little man gets into a lot of messes and sometimes I have to remind myself to just laugh about it. I know that one day I will miss the things he is doing now. I treasure every moment with him, even the messy ones!

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